Over the years the vampire stands alone as the monster we most relate with sex. But why? What is it about the vampire that inspires us to feel so turned on by this bloodsucking, undead predator? Let's explore the unique aspects of the vampire. The vampire's unbridled, unaplogetic bloodlust is a metaphor for our own sexual desires. The vampire is mythology's embodiment of sexuality. His victims swoon to his touch and his bite is about ecstacy as equally as it is about pain. In him, we see our sexual selves...the self that sometimes lies dormant or supressed, but never dies. Although undead, he is forever young and vital. His need for blood is as urgent as adolescent hormones. He is magical, powerful, mysterious and fatally flawed. He walks in this world, but yet is apart from it, aloof and elusive. He is a dream, a fantasy, just beyond our grasp and certainly beyond our control. Which brings me to another aspect of the vampire's appeal...domination. The vampire, whether male or female is the quintessential alpha-male which appeals to our need to surrender. With the vampire we have no choice but to bend to his will and by doing so, he rewards his victim with a sort of sexual awakening that would be impossible without complete surrender. Yet, an encounter with a vampire is never safe. There is always the element of danger lurking around the edges...even if the vampire is head over heels in love with you. And who doesn't like a bit of danger to spice up their lovelife? The vampire is also our most enchanting monster...a wonder to behold. Fair in face and form...the beauty that walks in the night. We appreciate him not only for his prowess, but also for the macbre sense of beauty he brings. Above all, there is a part of the vampire that remains unmistakably human. He loves, he laughs, he plays and he hurts as humans do. Perhaps more. Even the story of Dracula is a love story which exemplifies that while the body may grow cold and dead, love is the thing that never dies.
And above all, our desire to be loved is the most demanding need we possess and to be loved by a vampire is to be loved and desired for eternity. AND THAT IS SEXY!
If this has inspired you to take a second look at vampires, then please check out my new novel Only the Lonely, debuting Monday, March 29th. I think you will find it's not your typical vampire romance!
Have a great day and thanks for reading!
May there always be romance in your life,